by Sherrie Kenyon

Who says there isn’t any spunk in our young children?  Who says they can’t, under their own steam, work up recreation and entertainment and keep themselves out of any and all trouble?  If you have any doubt about how you’d answer these questions, take a run up to the Eastside, around the Fairview Street area, and find out what the young boys and girls have done this summer for fun, recreation and entertainment. (The Daily Olympian, August, 1955, by Mike Contris)

What do kids do during the summer?  We had no organized sports or transportation to get to special summer activities, so my mother was the self-designated organizer.  The kids always gathered at our house because there was a baseball game in the street, a taffy pull at the kitchen table or planning a sleep out in the backyard.

This summer in 1955, my mother gathered all of the neighborhood kids together to check out how much talent was available.  “Charles can sing” we shouted out.   “Florence, Charlotte and I can do a dance.  I’ll teach them!” my sister, Diane, offered.  I raised my hand to do the hula.  And so it was, a smattering of talent stepping up, but there were other kids sitting there with blank looks on their faces.  What would they do in the show?

The other day they had a big neighborhood show in the Crosetto basement on Fairview Street.  When the parents, relatives and neighbors gathered in the show site, it was packed, with standing room only.  But the biggest surprise was to be proved in what those kids had cooked up in the way of entertainment.  “Simply astounding”  was what adults repeated as they marveled at what had gone on among their neighborhood children.

Sheets were hung over a clothes line in the basement.  The curtains were drawn by the cast of characters in the show.  Everyone was kept busy, either on stage, opening and closing curtains, or getting ready for the next act.

The popular show on television was “This is Your Life”, so we adapted the concept into our own show.  Don, Diane’s friend, was the subject of the life show.  One after another, each of the neighborhood kids would come in and tell a funny story about Don, pretending to be long lost people in his most interesting life.  This skit did not require any special costumes, so it was easy to pull off.

Charles sang not one, but two songs.  Diane and her girlfriends did a skit, adding a few dance steps.  I did the hula.  The rest of the talent was carefully choreographed to our record player.  Gary, Gordon and Tom pantomimed ‘Mr. Sandman’.  Each wore a skirt. A bandana was wrapped around each young masculine head.  Add a little lipstick and they almost pulled it off, except it was hard to control the laughter that came from the audience.

But that isn’t all. To one side, in a separate part of the basement, the children had set up exhibits of their hobbies:  rock collections, salt-and-pepper shaker collection, paintings, dolls and similar items.  No show, of course, is complete without popcorn and stuff to munch on while the arts are going on.  So the children, for several days before, prepared a quantity of popcorn and such for sale during the show.

A nickel here, a dime there and the money started to add up.  In all, we made about $15.  That money was used a couple of weeks later as my mother took all of us, 10 kids, ages from 10 to 17, camping at Millersylvania Park.

What a summer it was.  We laughed as we practiced, each encouraging the others to be even better.  We surprised all the adults with our talent and creativity.  And, it seemed like a professional show to us.  Our prize was not only the satisfaction of putting on a good show, but all going camping together.  Oh, the summer of ’55.

by Sally O’Kane McClintock

Twelve packed boxes stand in the way of my reaching a life “all sorted out.”  Stored neatly in the living room and covered with a decorative cloth, the boxes wait for me to summon the courage for a final sorting. Others may consult practical books on sorting their possessions, but a playwright and a poet are my guides. But because of them, I am stuck in the middle, between postponing and exploring.

Whenever I think of sorting my things, I remember Davies’ recurring plaint in “The Caretaker”:  “Got to go to Sidcup, get myself sorted out.”

In this play by Harold Pinter, Davies is a tramp who calls himself Bernard Jenkins rather than Mac Davies. When questioned, he insists there are papers in Sidcup that will sort this all out: “They tell you who I am.” But he never makes that trip for the documents, blaming lack of shoes or bad weather—always something.

Unlike Davies, I have papers here in my desk that explains my three last names. Birth certificate, marriage licenses, and divorce decree tell who I am.  But I am like Davies in postponing my own sorting.  While most of my stored items are organized in cabinets, basement, and the garage, there are still those twelve unsorted boxes in the living room.

Some bear strange labels: “By the file cabinet.””On the card table.”  Cancer had come to me while living in Vermont.  Chemo was in my life. In a hurry between treatments, my children were moving me west to live near them.  My husband had died the year before.  “Label those boxes when you pack them,” I said as I flew off to Tacoma, “so I know what›s in them when they get there.”  There was no time for me to finish the packing.

Nine years later, a cancer survivor, I look at the labeled boxes and wonder what was “by the file cabinet,” what was “on the card table.” I could open the boxes and look.  But I hesitate, although there might be some precious things stored in them.  Somewhere there’s a jade necklace my father gave me when I was a teenager, bought from a drunken sailor, he said, on a San Francisco wharf. Or I might find my wooden pin of the old woman who lived in a shoe. I had the pin from childhood, the size of a button, with a tiny scene of the woman and the shoe and the children.  In which box might it be?

Still I hesitate to open the boxes and finish the sorting.  I know that sorting is more than uncovering and rearranging the items stored.  I may also uncover my own self, as I remember what was once—or may still be—important to my life. And perhaps consider rearrangement.

I wish I were bold enough to be guided by the poetry of T.S. Eliot, as he writes about exploring in “Four Quartets 4: Little Gidding”:
We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.

If I explore those final twelve boxes, perhaps I will find my jade necklace or my little pin. But to arrive where I started? What would that mean?  And what would it be like to know the place for the first time? Like Davies, I am fearful.

And thus I balance between postponing and exploring, caught between the play and the poem.  The jade will have to wait. And the old woman in her shoe. Why chance a life all sorted out for a possible glimpse of eternity— or of nothing?

For folks residing in nursing or retirement homes, the days can be long and lonely. Fortunately there is an organization whose mission is to match volunteers with residents to visit one on one.
Marilyn Soderquist, Program Director for Friend to Friend, said that many seniors residing in facilities have their physical needs taken care of, but what they lack is a friend.  Friend to Friend started in 1974 in Des Moines, WA. They now serve King, Kitsap, Snohomish, Pierce and Thurston counties.Friend to Friend draws their volunteers from a variety of areas said Soderquist, such as reading about Friend to Friend on the internet, in the newspaper or word of mouth.
“We ask for two references for every person who volunteers and they are all subject to background checks,” said Soderquist.
Some residents prefer their visits to take place within the facility, while others enjoy an afternoon out for coffee or to shop.  “One resident in Bellevue asked to go to a tavern for oysters and beer,” said Soderquist.
Volunteers take the residents to do things they might not otherwise be able to do.  “Right now, many are planting gardens in their own flower boxes. Some watch ballgames together,” she said.
Connie Benjamin began volunteering with Friend to Friend five years ago and finds the experience, “Absolutely wonderful.”  The lady she volunteered with was named Dottie.
“We saw each other every week and we had a wonderful rapport and when her health failed and she moved to another facility, I followed her there,” said Benjamin.
Dottie has since passed away at age 95, but Benjamin said, “It was good to share my life with her. We shared all of our adventures.”  Benjamin said she learned all about Dottie’s past. “We were almost like family,” she said.
Soderquist said the program is unique. “It is the only program that does this work in five counties. Every facility can meet the physical needs of the residents and they do a good job, but there is no way they can reach the emotional needs of every resident.”
Volunteers visit at least twice a month at their convenience for one year and the visits benefit the volunteers, residents and the staff who care for them Soderquist said, adding, “We went to a volunteer appreciation the other night and one of the volunteers who had been visiting her friend for six years said it was the most rewarding thing she had ever done.”
To learn more about Friend to Friend contact Marilyn Soderquist at (206) 870-4266.

For the third year in a row, Tacoma Art Museum, Museum of Glass, and Washington State History Museum are joining forces with the National Endowment for the Arts, Blue Star Families, and more than 1,500 museums across America to offer free admission to members of the U.S. Armed Forces. From Memorial Day, May 28, through Labor Day, September 3, 2012, active-duty military personnel and up to five of their immediate family members are eligible for this offer, which is valid for all military branches—Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines, Coast Guard, and active-duty National Guard and active-duty Reserve members.

“Through Blue Star Museums, the arts community is extending a special invitation to military families this summer,” said NEA Chairman Rocco Landesman. “This is both an opportunity to thank military families for their service and sacrifice, as well as a chance to create connections between museums and these families that will continue throughout the year. Especially for families with limited time together, those on a limited budget, and ones that have to relocate frequently, Blue Star Museums offers an opportunity to enjoy one another and become more fully integrated into a community.”

This year museums in all 50 states, the District of Columbia, Puerto Rico, and American Samoa are taking part in the initiative, including more than 300 new museums this year. Blue Star Museums represent not just fine arts museums, but also science museums, history museums, nature centers, and children’s museums.

Local Blue Star Museums include Tacoma Art Museum, Museum of Glass, Children’s Museum of Tacoma, Seattle Art Museum, The Museum of Flight, Wing Luke Museum, and The Henry Art Museum. For a full listing of Blue Star Museums both in Washington and around the country, visit http://www.arts.gov/national/bluestarmuseums.