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The number of older Americans living alone is on the rise. Nearly 16 million people 65 and older in the U.S. lived solo as recently as 2022, three times as many who lived alone in that age group in the 1960s. And as Baby Boomers age, that number is expected to grow even more, in large part because so-called “gray divorce” is on the rise.

According to the National Center for Family and Marriage Research, between 1990 and 2017, the divorce rate nearly tripled (from 4 to 11 per 1,000 individuals) for women 55 to 64 years old and nearly doubled for men in the same age group. The divorce rate for women 65 and older increased sixfold (1 to 6 per 1,000), and the divorce rate for men almost tripled to 2 to 5 per 1,000.

Jacqueline Newman, a divorce attorney and author of  the book “The New Rules Of Divorce: 12 Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health, and Happiness,” has this advice for older couples facing a “gray divorce:”

“The first thing I tell clients is that once you have decided you want to divorce–and that is the very first question you need to answer before moving forward–then the next steps are to become as educated as possible. Having an initial consultation with an attorney may be appropriate because you want to better understand the divorce landscape. 

“Often, I find that once I explain to a client what a divorce looks like and costs, that person may even change their mind and conclude their spouse isn’t that bad.  

“If you are the spouse who has not historically been involved with the family money and are in the financial dark, then it’s important that you learn as much as possible about the family finances–hether this means getting a copy of the tax returns, taking pictures of bank statements or having a frank conversation with your spouse about what your family assets, liabilities, income and expenses are.

“No matter what your age, it’s important to consider the emotional as well as the financial factors to make sure you are making the right decision to split with your spouse.”   

Source: Jacqueline Newman, a New York City-based divorce lawyer who has appeared on television as an expert commentator.

The Senior Scene by — January 23, 2025 in Lifestyle, Home, Adventures

By Matt Zajechowski

The decision to resign from a job is a moment of profound personal and professional significance. It’s a time when cultural norms, business etiquette, and individual emotions intersect, leading to a resignation notice.

In October 2023, a staggering 3.6 million people left their jobs.  Is the language of parting from a job tinged with frankness or tempered with tact? What significance do exit interviews hold in this context, and how are they orchestrated? What mindset do employees hold after they’ve left their workplace?

To answer these questions, Preply, a language tutoring service, surveyed over 1,000 Americans to uncover common trends in how we communicate when quitting a job. The survey revealed that the most popular way to quit is in person, with 76 percent choosing this direct and personal approach. Nine percent went a step further, presenting their employers with a handwritten note.

However, not every departure is cordial. Approximately 19 percent of employees leave their position without any communication or notice.

Of those who do communicate their decision to leave, nearly 43 percent report their discussions last only a few minutes, indicating a preference for brevity in these potentially uncomfortable exchanges. Similarly, among those who opt for e-mailed or texted resignations, another two-fifths keep their messages concise, often a short paragraph or two.

Survey respondents show a strong inclination toward maintaining professionalism and decorum when resigning—91 percent actively avoid negative language. Generationally, this restraint is most evident in Gen Z workers (27 and younger), with 61 percent of that age group holding back emotions, closely followed by baby boomers (60s and 70s) at 59 percent, Gen X (44 to 59) at 58 percent, and millennials (28 to 43) at 57 percent.

Gender differences are also notable, with women (63 percent) being more likely than men (53 percent) to suppress their emotions during the resignation process.

The quitting habits display a complex mix of cutthroat choices and caring gestures. For example, 1 in 8 employees (Gen Zers the most, boomers the least) have admitted to timing their resignations to cause maximum disruption to their employer.

Managers play a crucial role in the dynamics of employee resignations, and their perspectives offer unique insights into these transitions. About 2 in 5 managers acknowledge feeling upset when employees resign, yet they maintain professionalism in handling these situations. In addition, more than 1 in 10 managers have experienced being unjustifiably yelled at by an employee during a resignation. Such incidents highlight the emotional intensity that can accompany the resignation process and the challenges managers face in navigating these moments.

In regard to exit interviews, 72 percent of managers view them as more of a formality than a genuine opportunity for feedback. This is most prevalent among managers in the corporate sector sharing this view, followed most closely in hospitality and educational professions.

Sylvia Johnson, a language expert, said managers should respond professionally when an employee quits by expressing understanding and respect for the employee’s decision.

“For example, a manager might say, ‘I acknowledge your resignation letter, and while I’m sorry to see you leave, I respect your decision. Thank you very much for your service to the team. We wish you all the best in your future endeavors,’” Johnson said. “In that example, the manager thanks them for their service, inquires about the reasons for their decision (for feedback and improvement), and discusses transition plans. Each of these steps ensures the use of language maintains dignity and professionalism.”

Source: Preply, a language tutoring online service.

The Senior Scene by — January 15, 2025 in Lifestyle, Home, Adventures
Embrace digital to stay connected

(Pictured: For some seniors, phones with large buttons are virtually essential.)

By Onita Mihaly

In today’s rapidly evolving technological landscape, staying connected is more important than ever, especially for seniors. Maintaining social relationships, accessing essential services, and ensuring safety becomes increasingly important. The right communication tools play a pivotal role in empowering seniors to live independently, confidently, and with a sense of belonging.

Accessibility is a key consideration when selecting phones and other communication devices for seniors. As vision and fine motor skills may decline with age, it’s essential to choose phones with features that accommodate these changes, including:

  • Large, programmable buttons. For easy navigation and visibility.
  • Adjustable ringer and speaker volume. To ensure clear conversations.
  • Emergency buttons. For quick access to help, including 9-1-1.
  • Multiple cordless or corded phones. Place throughout the house for easy access, especially helpful in emergencies. Unlike mobile phones, one always knows where they are.

Safety and scam protection are paramount for seniors, and communication tools play a vital role in ensuring their well-being. Look for phone services offering:

  • Robust scam call blocking, including option to only allow calls from pre-approved numbers to go through.
  • Caller ID verification.
  • Scam alerts helping seniors recognize and avoid potential threats.
  • Automatic notifications to loved ones in emergencies.
  • Address-based 9-1-1 for faster response times, especially if one’s unable to speak. This is particularly important for those living in apartment buildings or senior communities.

Internet-based phone service can also be a reliable backup option in case of mobile carrier outages or if cell coverage is spotty inside the home.

Many seniors face the challenge of traditional landline service being phased out. A reliable and cost-effective alternative is Voice over Internet Protocol (VoIP), which uses the internet to make and receive calls. VoIP providers often offer free nationwide calling with only applicable taxes and fees, making it an attractive option for seniors on a budget; and the ability to keep existing phone numbers.

Family Communication: Bridging the Digital Divide

Other tips to help loved ones navigate the digital divide include:

  • Start slow, offer support. Gradually introduce new technology and provide hands-on assistance.
  • Involve seniors in decision-making. Respect their preferences and needs and consider their comfort level with technology.

By equipping seniors with the right communication tools, families can help them stay connected, safe, and independent. With the right guidance and support, seniors can embrace modern technology and enhance their quality of life.

Remember, staying connected is an ongoing process. As technology continues to evolve, it’s important to stay informed and adapt. By providing ongoing support and encouragement, families can help seniors embrace the digital world and enjoy all the benefits it has to offer.

Onita Mihaly is a brand-marketing expert for Ooma, a provider of communication solutions (https://www.ooma.com/home-phone-serviceseniors/)

The Senior Scene by — December 23, 2024 in Lifestyle, Home, Adventures
Owners do anything for their pets

(Pictured: Matti Rinehart and her dog, Benji, have received food from Meals on Wheels during her battle with cancer. Photo credit: Jake Lyell)

Like humans, four-legged family members need love and care. However, the relationship is not one-sided. In addition to joy and unconditional love, pets can help their owners – particularly seniors – live longer, happier, healthier lives, according to the Human Animal Bond Research Institutes (HABRI). Caring for pets may reduce anxiety, decrease loneliness, encourage physical activity and more.

Benefits of owning a pet and the important role a furry friend can play in healthy aging is noted by Meals on Wheels America. The national non-profit supports a network of more than 5,000 community-based programs across the country addressing senior hunger and isolation, and they serve furry clients, too. Hundreds of local programs provide pet food and supplies, plus services such as veterinary care access, grooming, emergency boarding, and dog walking. This helps seniors care for their animal companions and increases the chances they will stay together.

The organization’s pet programming success hinges on community investments, including national support from PetSmart Charities, as well as donations from local pet supply stores, veterinary clinics and other community-based businesses.

Since the program launched five years ago, the people behind it noticed a number of key benefits of pet ownership:

Improving mental health.

Pets typically waste little time in coming to their owners’ aid when they sense feelings of sadness or other negative emotions. Physical interactions, such as petting, can cause the release of endorphins, which are natural mood boosters, promoting happiness and well-being.

Companionship.

Pets serve as a source of comfort and emotional support during difficult times and reduce feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. Nearly 98 percent of Meals on Wheels’ clients with pets said their animals make them happier and less lonely. Many seniors often find solace in talking to their pets, their closest companions and often one of their only sources of consistent comfort.

Physical activity.

Pets help keep older adults active with the opportunity to play and go on walks. Even if mobility is limited, pets can spark physical activity in day-to-day life. Dog owners reported more minutes per week of physical activity compared with non-dog owners, according to HABRI. Regular physical activity has been shown to help lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of cardiovascular diseases.

Known for providing nourishing meals and companionship to homebound seniors across the country, Meals on Wheels also serves furry clients. This extra layer of support allows seniors to continue living independently with their floppy-eared hounds and whiskered felines, including David, who lives alone with Rebel, his 7-year-old blue heeler.

In May, volunteers from a local program delivered the 13-millionth pet meal, which just so happened to go to David and Rebel’s doorstep. This is one of several services offered by many programs across the country, which often provide veterinary care access, cat litter, leashes, treats and toys, grooming, emergency boarding and dog walking.

Before connecting with the charity, David resorted to paying only half his electric bill – just enough to keep the lights on – so he could afford food for his pup.

“I was barely making it,” David said.

Many homebound seniors make sacrifices like this to care for their pets. More than 1 in 5 Meals on Wheels clients with pets forgo meals themselves to feed their companion animals. About 30 percent skimp on other necessities, like medical care and utilities, to provide for their pets.

Despite these challenges, pets are a powerful force in the fight against senior isolation. That includes David, who relies on Rebel, a registered service animal, to help manage his anxiety and depression.

“Rebel the Wonder Dog – that’s what I call him,” David said. “I wonder how he’s still here and how he takes care of me so much. I talk to him all day like a human because I got no family. He helps me more than people will ever know.”

More information about pet assistance programs is at mealsonwheelsamerica.org/pets.

Source: Family Features

The Senior Scene by — December 18, 2024 in Lifestyle, Home, Adventures